Simple Ways To Resolving Marital Issues / Differences

Frictions, some measure of difficulties and issues will always crop up in marriage relationships, because two different people essentially comes together to become one. It is the ability of couples to manage these differences that determines the success of their marriage.

So what can married couples do if they're having some difficulties?

1.         One person in the marriage doesn't have to wait for the other to start working on the union. One person's efforts could initiate positive changes in the marriage, so don't wait.

2.         Quitting asking if you've married the right person. There are no two persons that will ever be 100% compatible. It is always a wrong question to ask!

Essentially, the key to success in marriage lies in not finding the right person; but learning to love the person you found and married.

3.         Be determined to make your union work. Stop envying other people who worked on their issues and are living happy. Do something about yours. And stop saying Uncle John and Aunt Shola were lucky to be enjoying their home.

Note that success in marriage is not luck; it's all about choice, the choice you make. You don't have to be lucky in love or marriage. Depending on your behavior, one can determine the outcome of one’s marriage.

4.         Running or staying away won’t help. For some case, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" may work. But not in marriage bridled with crisis or issues. Note that absence can cause a lot of problems in marriage. You need time together to sort out things together.

5.         Talking to friends about your issues won’t help your home. Stop going about lamenting to your relatives, friends, colleagues and associates about your marital issues. Doing so is simply going against one of the unwritten code of privacy in marriage.

Note that, in marriage, "One of the most important values that would build and sustain your home is privacy!  

And one of the greatest mistakes you would make in marriage is to discuss your marriage or your spouse to family or friends. It is an abuse of your spouse's privacy and it is wrong. Note too that, in no time, that discussion would become a reference point in advising or discussing other people.