Tuesday 26 August 2014

I Raped My Mum And This Is Her REVENGE

THIRTY YEARS ago Frank went to jail for murder and armed robbery. But now Frank wants forgiveness for the crime he was never sentenced for . . . HE BELIEVES

ANGRY SPIRITS ARE SENDING FIRES TO BURN HIM FOR RAPING HIS MOTHER.
Frank Buthelezi from Dlamini, Soweto, is 65 years old.

It is hard to think the frail man lying on his deathbed was once a raging thug, terrorising ikasi and caring for nothing but himself and his own pleasure.

In the 1980s, when he was a strong young man, he terrorised his family and the community - and eventually found himself behind bars for armed robbery and murder.

But he was never sentenced for the worst of his crimes.
He confessed to Daily Sun he often used to rape and beat his mum and other family members.

Now the dying man is asking for forgiveness. When Sina Buthelezi died in 1992 at the age of 74, her anger at the brutal actions of her own son had not subsided, and he believes his mother's angry spirit is sending fires that have burnt him six times in the last few months.

The fires apparently start in the cupboard and then attack him in bed. "I'm not proud of the things I did in my past. I never cared for anyone but myself," said Frank.

"I wanted to go to my mother's grave and ask her for forgiveness early in December, but I had a stroke and never made it to the grave."

Frank said he knows what he did was wrong.
"Even when I got paroled, I terrorised my family. I even wanted to kick them out of the house," he said.
"People haunt me in my dreams. They all speak about the evil things I did a long time ago."

A neighbour said she hears Frank screaming at night.
"He said he dreams of people following him. They all want to kill him," she said.

A 65-year-old woman told Daily Sun Frank raped her four times while she was still at school. "He made me pregnant. I was forced to be his girlfriend. We were together for eight years and I had two children with him," she said.

"He used to beat me with anything he could find. To this day I still have problems with my spine where he beat me with a brick."

When Frank was sentenced to 17 years in prison in 1983, she broke all her ties with him and has since married another man.

Frank was released on parole in 1993.

Frank's daughter said Frank came to the house soon after his mother died. But after all the pain the daughter went through, she didn't want to even see her father on the property.

"I even took him out of the family will," she said. "My grandmother was a good woman who wanted to see all her children happy but Frank wouldn't allow it. He did terrible things to her."

A neighbour who remembers Frank from his wild days, said Sina used to call her in the middle of the night to rescue her from the violent son.

She has some advice for the family.


"Nothing will come right until the family goes to the graveyard to ask for forgiveness," she said

Monday 25 August 2014

Fiancé Of Late Nurse Justina Ejelonu Is Ebola; Discharged From Treatment Centre




















When Justina Ejelonu, the First Consultant nurse died on August 14th from complications from the deadly Ebola Virus, Dennis, her fiancé` voluntarily submitted himself for observation. This was after falling ill 14 days after his fiancée Justina died.

He has been certified free of the virus and discharged from the Isolation center on August 23rd after tests carried out on him showed he contract the Ebola virus.


Recounting how Justina fell ill and later died, Dennis said she was two months pregnant when the illness started, and began vomiting on him and then collapsed in his presence before he immediately rushed her to the hospital. 

He said while she was admitted at the isolation center, he waited around the hospital premises, occasionally going into the Ebola ward to cater for her as nurses and doctors abandoned her to her fate at the treatment center. He stuck with her till the end.


Justina was the nurse who attended directly to Patrick Sawyer at the First Consultant Hospital.

A Woman Burns Little Girl For Urinating In Bed


What could have made a woman to wickedly abuse a little girl this way?

This little girl was rushed to the hospital yesterday after her madam asked her to sit on a burning electric cooker. Her only sin was that she allegedly urinated in bed. How many children are free from urinating in bed? Is it because she is a maid?


The incident happened in the Gwarimpa area of Abuja. Reports are been monitored.





Nigeria’s Asisat Oshoala Wins Best Player At FIFA U-20 Women World Cup


Nigeria’s Asisat Oshoala has been voted the Most Valuable Player/Best Player at the 2014 FIFA U20 World Cup in Canada.

Asisat was awarded the Golden Ball award and Golden Boot for scoring seven goals and providing two assists.

Though the Falconets lost 0-1 to their German counterparts in the finals of the World Cup played in Montreal, Canada early this morning, the Nigerian girls gave a good account of themselves and won many hearts despite losing the trophy.

French midfielder Griedge Mbock-Bathy was awarded the Silver Ball while her compatriot Claire Lavogez, was the Bronze Ball winner.

Congrats Asisat Oshoala, congrats Nigeria!


Friday 22 August 2014

Man Fakes Death To Get Out Of His Wedding


 August 15 would have been Alex Lancaster's wedding day -- if her fiancee hadn't faked his own death.

Lancaster, 23, of the United Kingdom, reportedly met Tucker Blandford, also 23, in August 2012, when she was attending college in Connecticut. The two fell quickly in love.
"He was such a gentleman. He showered me with jewelry. We would go out for a posh dinner on the tenth of every month to celebrate the day we got together," Lancaster said, according to the Mirror. "I'd never been in love like that before. I met his family and they treated me like a daughter. His mum and I became so close."
Lancaster feared their good thing would come to an end when she returned home, so when Blandford proposed marriage, she was eager to say yes.
The two talked every day and started planning a wedding in Connecticut. Lancaster said she spent money on a dress, invitations and for flights for Blandford so he could see her in the U.K.
Things changed a few months ago, when she got a call from a man who said he was Blandford's father.
"He told me Tucker had been deeply depressed and wanted to die, so had thrown himself in front of a car," she said, according to Yahoo! News UK. "The man explained that they had been trying to send Tucker off to a psychiatric unit for help. But it was too late. I couldn't breathe. It was absolutely devastating."
She got off the phone emotionally shattered, but things took a weird turn when she called the family back a short time later.
Blandford's mom answered the phone, but had no clue that her son had died. In fact, he was alive and well.
"She said Tucker was absolutely fine –- but she also thought we'd split up," Lancaster told Reveal.co.uk. "She knew nothing about the wedding."
Lancaster quickly discovered that the venue they had supposedly reserved for their wedding had no record of their booking.
Although Blandford has since texted to say he was sorry, and has paid back half the $1,200 he owes her for wedding-related expenses, Lancaster refuses any contact.
"I don't think I'll ever forgive him," she said, according to Reveal.co.uk. "To pretend to be dead to get out of marrying me is just gutless. If he loved me, how could he do such a thing?"
Blandford admits Lancaster's allegations are true.
"I’m a terrible, awful person. I know I shouldn’t have told her I was dead, but I didn’t know what else to do," he said, according to the Daily Mail. "Alex is an amazing girl but I got scared and wanted to get out of the relationship. It was moving extremely fast and with us being in different countries, it was really hard.

"At the time I just felt like I couldn’t tell the truth and thought if I could just postpone everything it would be better."
Ironically, Lancaster's loss of love led her to a new career. She is now building a successful business making wedding favors, according to the Mirror.


Police Arrests Pastor For Raping Woman In Church


The Ogun State Police Command has arrested a 37-year-old pastor, Segun Alawode, of the Eternal Sacred Order of Cherubim and Seraphim, Sabo in Odogbolu Local Government Area   for allegedly raping a 32- year old- lady inside the church.
The victim, whose identity the police did not disclose, alleged that the pastor was in a prayer session with her when he asked her to hold on to some candle sticks and forcefully pulled off her wrapper before having carnal knowledge of her.
The command’s spokesman, Mr. Muyiwa Adejobi, said the victim and her relations later reported the matter to policemen   who arrested the culprit.
He said, “Medical reports so far received on the matter confirmed that the pastor actually committed the offence and he has since confessed to the crime. The accused will soon be charged to court.
“The matter is presently at the anti- Human Trafficking and Child Labour unit of the Department of Criminal Investigation in Abeokuta.”
Source NewsDay


Romance Through Words Part Two (5 Simple Steps To Writing A Love Letter)



Here are five simple steps to write an awesome letter that your better half will cherish for life:

1.         RELAX. There’s no pressure. Simple and heartfelt is the way to go. Remember, it’s your spouse, not an exam body!

2.         REFLECT. Think back, and write around a simple theme…favorite memories during the past year, the story of your first date or why you fell in love with them and why today they are even better. Just think!

3.         ROUGH IT.  Just write out some phrases, let your creativity flow.

4.         WRITE IT. Handwritten is best. Typed out will work, especially with some cool paper if you wish to add graphics for a little personalization.

5.         RECITE. Read your letter aloud to your partner. Or have it delivered in a cool and memorable way.

Now, it’s up to you. Write it, and enjoy your love!

Thursday 21 August 2014

7 Simple Steps Of Forgiveness


Forgiveness is a process. It is what you do step by step. Here are seven simple steps that prepares you to forgive.

Step 1
Ask yourself: what am I experiencing now?
Acknowledge all your feelings. Know that you do not have to act upon those feelings.


Step 2
Make a list of all your feelings.
Make a list of every conflict, issue and problem.


Step 3
Release all anger, fear, disappointment, frustration and hurt.
Release each charge one by one.
Release each conflict, issue and problem one by one.
Take your time but keep releasing all these heavy feelings.
Release as much as you can by deeply experiencing all your feelings.


Step 4
After releasing all anger, hurt, pain and other feelings, you will feel quite neutral when focusing on “better half” and the old relationship or marriage or conflicts, issues and problems.
Check if this is the case and move on to Step 5.
If it is not yet the case, loop back to Step 2.


Step 5
Release with appreciation and love “better half” your old relationship or marriage and all the issues associated with it.
If you are not able to feel this, loop back to Step 3.


Step 6
Forgive your “better half”for all that feels painful to you.
If you are not able to feel this, loop back to Step 3.


Step 7
Wish your “better half” well.
Thank your “better half” for having had time together.
Feel only light and love for “better half”.
If you are not able to feel this, loop back to Step 5.

We shall be following this up with how to achieve forgiveness in marriage. Watch out!

Romance Through Words


 A marriage without love is worst than riding a horse with a broken leg. And romance is the spark that will keep the fire of your relationship aglow.

But how romantic are you? Do you have or spare time for romance? And how do you really begin?

Well, when it comes to the most important relationship in your life, don’t be normal. Do the unusual. Be creative and adventurous.

Unfortunately, in many relationships, “normal” represents a life of mediocrity and going through the motions. It is simply too easy to succumb to the busyness of life and lose sight of how precious our spouse or better half really is to us.

And it is even easier for our partner to feel disconnected and a bit underappreciated. We know how we feel, and (if asked), we are quick to tell others that our spouse is a clear number one on our priority list...  But does your partner really know how you feel?

Well, tell them! It may sound ordinary. It may seem too simplistic. But clear communication is THE KEY to a healthy and extraordinary relationship.

§    When you think a kind thought about your spouse, let them know how you feel.

§    Take the time to listen to them about their day, and respond with some exuberance or empathy.

§    Show them you care by telling them you care.

These are the little things that make us all feel appreciated and affirmed in the face of a rush and rush life.

Write How You Feel:
Talking is good, but writing is great. To leave a really meaningful and lasting impact on your partner’s heart, take a few minutes to write them a romantic love letter. This doesn’t have to be some classy Prof. Wole Soyinka write-up. Yes, though it could be; but writing shouldn’t be difficult. And you are not facing WAEC – it’s your better half! Anything goes!

Make it simple.
All it takes is a few minutes to create a sweet little letter that expresses the feelings you usually don’t take the time to consider or (especially) to deliver.

With just a small effort, you have the ability to rock your relationship and make your sweet heart feel as special as they truly should feel.

Yes, it is time. Take the motivation you feel right now, and start to jot down your thoughts. Follow through with a heartfelt romantic letter, and deliver in an awesome way.  You and your spouse will be so glad that you did.




Let's Go Out: Dates to Bring You Closer Together

 

 Have ever had a date with your spouse? I know when you were courting, dates and date nights would have brought smiles to your have. Why should those smiles cease?

Date nights means you and your partner get to go out without the kids. It means dinner strictly for two, uninterrupted conversation, and then a walk, drive, or movie at home.

In a rush rush and ever busy world, you may perhaps find it difficult to figure out where to eat and what to do, so much so that the joy of a date night is lost.

But since the goal is to have something different and special, not the regular everyday outing, you may have to device a calculated plan.

To achieve this, apply what I call, "Take the Lead" on your outing or date nights. It's not difficult – simply means that you partner plan out the entire date.

 When you Take the Lead, you release your spouse from having to decide anything. It becomes an opportunity for them to just be spoiled by you. This becomes such a welcome change, because, let's face it, both husbands and wives are constantly making decisions all day long. We become mentally exhausted.

Taking the Lead is similar to the early days of your relationship when one of you would plan a romantic evening, down to the very last detail.

Here are some ideas to help you Take the Lead on your next date night:

§    Choose the restaurant, and make reservations.

§    If you know what your spouse likes, preorder and have appetizers or dinner ready when you arrive.

§    Plan the date's activity—a movie, a walk in the park, a drive.

Date night is a special time for the two of you to reconnect, to focus on your relationship. Remember that you should never stop courting your spouse, wooing them, making them feel special. Take the Lead, and be in the moment with the most special person in your life

 Some Things you can do on a date night:
 
1.         Visit the museum or art gallery
2.         Attend a comedy show
3.         Have lunch/dinner at a park.
4.         Go for a long drive.
5.         Take a walk on the beach.
6.         Go for sporting event together.
7.         Sit by a lake, a pond, a creek.
8.         Play a board game together.
9.         Watch a movie.

10.       Think outside the box.

Who Should A Woman (A Wife) Dress To Please?


That a woman cannot be separated from fashion is a common truth. It is the nature of the woman to adorn herself with fine apparel and look adorable.

But of late, the scope of a woman’s dress has been extended to include some form of partial nudity. While some people frown at this trend called new age fashion, those who cherish such dresses vehemently claims that is the way to go.

We wish to sample your true opinion. Who should a woman, a married woman dress to please, and why?

In one of our recent posts we discussed the issue of dress code where a wife was caught between following her husband’s wishes or that of her church (Read it here).

Marriage Alive Digest is seeking to find out and we would be glad if you could kindly share your experience, thoughts and opinions with us. Lay it bare! Who should a woman, a married woman dress to please?

Tuesday 19 August 2014

5 Ways To Grow Closer To Your Spouse In 2014


 When the year began, many of us many resolutions to improve or change certain areas of our lives. But did you consider what you would do to get in better shape, relationally, with your spouse?

No matter your priorities, you must realize that you need to deliberately and intentionally invest in your marriage just as much as you are investing in other areas of your life.

This means setting tangible goals yearly in that area, too. You can initiate your goal-setting process by asking your spouse some of the following questions:

·        What did you most enjoy about our dating days?
·        What do you wish we could do as a couple that we rarely or no longer take the time to do?
·        What have you always wanted to do, as a couple, that we haven't yet done?
·        Where would be the ideal getaway for you and me to go someday?
·        What, specifically, would you like to see us accomplish together in the next year?

You need to continually set - and meet - relational goals. I encourage you to ask your spouse those questions above and then come up with some goals of your own for 2014.
But if that's too big of a step for now, or if you're frustrated at being the one who has to initiate a closer connection, here's a place to start - five simple goals for a closer connection in the next year:

1.         Start your day with a kiss.
Simple, but effective. Studies show couples who kiss each other daily (even a quick peck on the cheek) are happier, overall, than couples who don't.

2.         Say encouraging words.
It doesn't take a lot of effort, but it reaps marvelous results.  Think in terms of "I'm only going to say it if my spouse is encouraged by it." You'll notice, within days, how your relationship improves.

3.         Plan a regular date night. 
If you have children and can rarely afford a babysitter, find another couple in the same situation and exchange babysitting once a month so each couple can have a monthly date night. Dating was important before you were married and believe us, it's even more important after you're married.

4.         Read through a relationship-building book together. 
I know, it might sound like "work" to you or your spouse, but it can be fun, and a great investment of your time together. Maybe it will consist of you reading to your spouse before bed. Or taking turns reading a chapter to each other once a week. I tried for years to get my husband to read through a relationship book with me and finally he recommended one to me, himself, which we really enjoyed it. Working through a devotional book together will help you see deeper into your spouse's heart, as well as your own. 

5. Pray together regularly.
We've heard this advice as often as you have, but it took us years to get to that place. We will admit that, even as a couple in ministry (my husband is a pastor), it's difficult to find concentrated time to pray together.

But when we started spending just a few minutes praying together before work in the morning, we found that a short prayer also included a hand held, two hears shared, and a connection with God together that made all the difference in our day. If it's still a struggle in your marriage, pray about how the two of you can make time to pray together.


When it comes to setting goals for your marriage, take the first step, willingly and lovingly. It always pays!

6 Steps To Better Relationships


No relationship is perfect. The people we live with are imperfect human beings. They have faults. They make mistakes. They let us down on occasion.

Because we live so closely with other human beings, it becomes very easy to look at their faults through a magnifying glass. I

Without realizing it, we move from believing the best about our spouse, our children, our relatives, or our friends to believing the worst about them. With their faults maximized and their strengths minimized, we slowly close off our heart to them. Before we know it, a relational wall has been erected by our skewed perspective and unrealistic expectations (that they won’t make mistakes, that they should have made a different decision, etc).

That relational wall begins a process of separation in our heart and mind. It divides our loyalties and moves us away from the relationship rather than towards the relationship that means so much to us.

It’s not the big things that kill relationships. It’s often the little things that accumulate over time. Looking at faults through a magnifying glass is a little thing that can do damage over the long haul unless we do something about it.

Here are six ways to see others in a more balanced way:

1) Move the magnifying glass:                                                                                               
Move your focus from what they do wrong to what they do right. If you’re finding yourself critical of or angry or disgusted with your spouse, you’ve likely had tunnel vision on their imperfections. Sit down and make a list of their strengths and what they contribute positively to the relationship.

2) Stay focused on what you love:   
What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bothers you, all you will see are the things that tick you off. Keep your eyes on what you love so you fill your heart with love.

3) Resist the temptation:
The enemy is cunning and will do his best to get your emotions tangled up and engaged. Once your emotions are engaged it becomes easier to see your spouse, your challenging child, your sister-in-law, or your friend as an enemy.

This is the first step of dividing and destroying. Don’t take the bait!

4) Believe the best about your loved one:
Resist the urge to make their mistake a personal offense towards you.  Beware of statements you might make to yourself like, “If he really loved me he wouldn’t have done that,” or “She did that just to tick me off.”

These kinds of statements are fertilizer to negative emotions.

5) Get perspective:  
Are you making a mountain out of a molehill? In the big scheme of things, is this really a big deal? When you measure this imperfection, mistake, or disappointment against all the good things about the person, you’ll quickly see that this situation isn’t worth the energy you’re giving it.

You need spiritual perspective as well. Remind yourself who the real enemy is (Satan) and what his agenda is (to divide and destroy). Don’t let yourself get sucked into his distraction and deception.

6) Learn to move forward:                                                                                         
Sometimes we need to give grace, forgive, and let it go. Sometimes we need to have a conversation with the person, but only after our emotions have calmed down. And sometimes we need to realize that our own pride or insecurity is the bigger issue here and its helpful to move the magnifying glass from our loved one to ourselves for a few convicting minutes.

Don’t let it sit there for too long or you’ll move from conviction to condemnation in no time.
Magnifying glasses helps people to see things more clearly at times. Magnifying glasses in relationships can do the same. But  it all depends on what you’re looking at.

What about you? Where have you had your relational magnifying glass pointed at the wrong things? What are you making bigger than it needs to be?



The Best Romantic Gift You've Never Given

 

 Few activities offer the immediate and meaningful impact of writing a romantic love letter to your spouse. So simple, yet so rare!

It makes your spouse feel special, and it expresses your emotions in a way that creates a personal souvenir.  And for you couples working on a budget, it doesn't cost a kobo unless you want to buy a stamp.

Sometimes, the idea of writing a romantic letter to a loved one brings back memories of your high school days.

I wrote a lot of late night "love letters" during my teenage years, and I actually got pretty good at it.  At least that's what my girlfriend (and fortunately now my wife) tells me.
Sounds Great, So Where's My Letter?

So, why don't we write more romantic letters after we get married?  We know they'll be appreciated and score us major points.  It doesn't take long to do, there's no cost, and it's a simple way to add some fun and romance to your marriage.

The truth is it's tough to get started, and you're probably feeling a little out of practice.  That's why this post is here to encourage you.

Pick up your pen and write. It’s quite simple!