7 Things Husbands Need To Know About Their Wives - But May Not Know

To be honest, marriage can be hard. I guess you know that already! 

Sometimes you do the wrong thing before you even knew you did the wrong thing. You try to figure out the one you love the most, but the more you try, the more confused you get. And so many men simply don’t know how important some of these things are to their wives.

Here are 7 things you may not know (but you need to know) about your wife:

1.         You Step On Her Feelings More Than You Know

You just do. And you don’t even mean to—or know that you've done it most of the time. She may think you know, but you don’t. You’re just not as aware of how she’s wired emotionally. And most of the time she overlooks it. She knows it wasn’t intentional. But it hurts. And the more you do it, the more it hurts. So be careful with your words.

This leads to the next one.

2.         Your Words Are Heavier Than You Think They Are

You need to know that. When she asks you how she looks, for example - yes, it is a quandary on how to respond, and there are plenty of jokes around about that dilemma - your response matters. Probably more than any other response of her day. It’s a small question to you but a big question for her. And you communicate things to her continually through how you say what you say and the body language you combine with your words. And they weigh a ton to her. A ton.

3.         She Wants You To Take The Lead

At least occasionally. I know all the women’s rights issues cloud this for you. It can be confusing, but there’s likely something in your wife just waiting for you to make a decision. She values your input, and she wants you to lead in the home as well as she sees that you can lead elsewhere. And, speaking on behalf of men, I know you don’t always want to be the leader. She’s better at making many of the decisions than you are. Still, she’s waiting, hoping that you’ll step up when and where you need to lead.

4.         She Doesn’t Want To Be Like Her Mother

Or to be compared to her mother. And these type jokes aren’t funny. Ever. Trust me. And, in fact, she doesn’t want to be like any other woman either. She wants to be seen for the unique wonder she is—which by the way was God-designed.

5.         She Is Likely With You Even When She’s Not

At least in her mind. Our wives are very relational. So if she asks about your calendar, now you know. She’s not trying to be difficult or suspicious. She’s trying to be with the one she loves.

6.         It’s Okay Just To Hold Her Hand

And, also, to occasionally be romantic. You may have established a long time ago that you’re not the romantic type. She may realize she married funny - or serious or dedicated - more than romantic. But every woman needs a little romance occasionally. It makes her feel special, especially when it comes from you.

7.         The Way Her World Looks Is Often How Her Heart Feels

All her world. The house, for example. You think it doesn’t matter, but to her it reflects her - not you. She’s also conscious of what others think of her appearance. She carries this burden heavier than she wants to sometimes. Don’t diminish this to her. Understand it.

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7 Things Wives Need To Know - But May Not Know - About Their Husbands

1.         He Is Not Superman -  His Ego Is More Fragile Than You Imagined

I know, you’re probably tired of hearing about the male ego. I get it. But it hasn’t gone away, and, frankly, the world isn’t too kind on our ego. We see the jokes on every sitcom and commercial about how inadequate we are at times. But there’s not a man with a soul that’s alive that doesn’t want to be admired by the woman in his life. Not one.

2.         He Is Very Visual

More than you are probably thinking. You see his eyes roam. That’s a natural reaction for him. Now, he has responsibility over his eyes—not the girl who attracted them—but if there’s a pretty girl around, he probably saw her long before you did. And he likely battles staring more than you will ever understand.

3.         He Doesn’t Want You To Be His Mother

You can say “ouch!” if you need to, but men want a wife, not a mom. I hear this from men frequently - especially young men. If you’re a mom they want you to be a great mom—just not theirs. I know we need mothering sometimes. All of us do. We may even act like big babies at times. But mothering a husband never works. Ever. Be our partner. Our best friend. Not our mother.

4.         When You Correct Him You Hurt Him

That doesn’t mean he doesn’t need correcting. He might. But the way you do this is huge. Your respect for him is huge for him. His greatest emotional need. That could be in how he fixes the bed - or the fact that he doesn’t - or for things far worse. If he senses you are talking down to him - not respecting him - he may comply with your wishes in actions (or not), but inside his heart will be growing colder towards you.

5.         He Loves You Uniquely

He probably won’t love you all the ways you expect him to love. And, frankly, he won’t be all the love you need him to be. He may not always feel love as an emotion as strongly as you do. Your heart is capable of much more than he can fill completely. There will be times - hopefully even seasons when he does - but no man will meet every need of your heart. (Other than the man Jesus)

6.         What He Does Really Is Who He Is Many Times

It’s his identity. If it’s golf, his career, fishing, antique cars or his extensive comic book collection—that’s a part of him. When you miss that or don’t value it, he may feel like less of a man.

7.         He Probably Thinks You’re More Wonderful Than You Think He Does

And he has a strong desire to protect you because of it. He sees all you are capable of doing. He wonders how you keep up with everyone and everything as you do. He may even envy that about you. He respects you—probably more than he knows how to communicate to you.

Guys, anything you would add?

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Is Breastfeeding A Baby In Public Wrong For A Nursing Mother?

Babies that are breast fed are very portable and easy to comfort no matter where your schedule has you going.  Many women however, worry about breast feeding in public. The worry of nursing in a public place is normally worse than the actual experience and often times the only people who notice you feeding are the other mothers who are doing the same thing.

Many women find ways to breast feed discreetly. 

You can ask your partner or even a friend to stand in front of you while you lift your shirt from the waist.  When you breast feed, the baby's body will cover most of your upper body and you can pull your shirt down to her face to cover the tops of your breast.  Some mothers prefer to put a light blanket over their shoulders as a type of cover.

When you are visiting someone else's home, you may feel more comfortable either leaving the room or turning away from people when you first put the baby to your breast.  If you would like more privacy, breast feed in an empty room, car, or public restroom.

A lot of restrooms are becoming more baby friendly and they even have a separate are with a changing table and a chair.  Several shopping malls now offer special mother's rooms where the mom can breast feed her baby in privacy, which will help sensitive babies who are too distracted by feeding to nurse well in public.

It won't take long at all though, before your baby will learn to breast feed without any fuss at all.

An alternative way is expressing or pumping your milk at home and then offer it in a bottle while in public.  Keep in mind, offering bottles with artificial nipples in the first few weeks can and probably will interfere with breast feeding.

When breast feeding in public, you should always use what works best for you.  During the first few weeks, it will take some getting used to, as it will be as new for you as it is for the baby.  With some time, you'll have no problems at all.

If you don't feel comfortable breast feeding in a certain location, then you shouldn't.  You should feel a certain level of comfort when you feed, as the baby can tell when you aren't comfortable doing something.  If you show your baby that you aren't nervous - you and your baby will be just fine.

Lagos Records 12,120 Rape Cases In Four Years

 

The Lagos State Government says it recorded no fewer than 12, 120 rape cases in the last four years.

The government added that the names of 140 sex offenders had been recorded in the Sex Offenders’ Register.

The Attorney-General and Commissioner for Justice, Mr. Ade Ipaye, spoke on Monday at Alausa, Ikeja, saying 3,083 offenders were asked to engage in community services as a form of punishment between January 2014 and February 2015.

Ipaye explained that the measure was part of the strategies to decongest the prisons.

He said, “I am pleased to inform you that the non-custodian sentencing has continued to wax stronger in demonstration of the fact that the criminal justice system does not need to incarcerate offenders in order to be effective. With the community service option available to judges and magistrates, convicted offenders do not need to be sent to prison for every minor infraction of the law.”

The commissioner explained that in one year, out of the 795 police investigation files sent to the Directorate of Public Prosecutions’ office for legal advice, the unit had treated 716 files, translating to 90.1 per cent, while the rest were still being processed.

He said, “During the same period, the DPP engaged in the prosecution of 1,069 criminal cases. This figure includes the 786 cases which are currently being prosecuted at the federal and the state high courts, as well as 54 and 11 at the Court of Appeal and the Supreme Court, respectively.”

Ipaye said the state government had a Crime Data Register, where records of crimes and the perpetrators were electronically taken.

He explained that the initiative demonstrated government’s commitment to use technology to combat crime.

He said, “CDR is an electronic repository of information about suspects and offenders who pass through any of the prisons in Lagos State.

“Currently, the CDR is a robust system in terms of its IT infrastructure and functionality. We now have 62,789 unique records in the system, of which about 40,000 have biometric and fingerprint details.”

Ipaye added that the Office of the Public Defender, the agency saddled with the responsibility of providing legal aid services to indigent citizens, had handled over 15,000 issues at no cost.

The Director, OPD, Mrs Omotola Rotimi, said the agency in the last one-year recorded 526 rape cases, with 227 still pending in court.

Parents Beware: 186,300 Children Die From Road Accidents – FRSC

The Federal Road Safety Commission says no fewer than 186,300 children are killed globally by road accidents every year.

The Zonal Commanding Officer, FRSC 2, Ojodu, Lagos, Assistant Corps Marshal Charles Akpabio, said this at an event on Monday.

The event was to mark the 2015 United Nations Global Road Safety Week, themed, ‘Children and Road Safety’.

Akpabio, who noted that the programme was to reduce children’s vulnerability to road accidents, said the government must also enhance road infrastructure to curtail crashes.

He said, “In 2011, the United Nations General Assembly said a programme must be launched to cut down the deaths of children by avoidable road accidents. Nigeria as a signatory has therefore joined.

“This will translate to saving five million lives in the country lost to road accidents. We have a huge children population and it is this category that is most vulnerable to road crashes. So, there is the need to make them safe at all times.

“Annually, 186,300 children die from road accidents. This translates to 500 children every day. In order to reduce this trend, the UN brought up safety factors to implement on our roads.”

Akpabio enjoined parents and guardians to restrain from making children young drivers, adding that it was an offence under the law.

He said, “The factors to consider in reducing road crashes are: controlling speed, reducing drinking and driving, using helmets for motorcycles and restraining children in vehicles.

“There is also the need to enhance road infrastructure. This is a step to be taken by the government and the community. Parents must reduce the risk of using young children as drivers. There are parents who make children less than 18 to drive out of love. It is against the law.”

In his opening remarks, the Sector Commander, Hygenus Omeje, said the FRSC, as a lead agency in road management, was spearheading the UN’s efforts on safety rules and also partnering with several non-governmental organisations.

The Coordinator of Safe Kids Initiative,a non-governmental organisation at the event, Lord Wilson, advised the government to put children into consideration in its road policies.

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