6 Things Your Love Should Do For Your Husband

As woman and as a wife, what is the best thing you can do for your husband? I guess you would say,”Love him. Love him. Love him!”

Well some people’s love do much more than just love. Some do things no one else's love does. And here are six things your love should do for your husband:

1.         Your Love Should Give Your Husband Courage

Life is essentially about the love of God, for "If God is for us who can be against us?" Your goal is to strive to get to the point where your love for your husband can give him this empowering, courage-building truth, "If she is for me who can be against me?"

According to Beth Moore, "Courage comes to the heart that is convinced they are loved".  More than we know, an average man live with the nagging fear that he is not man enough. He feels evaluated, measured or stacked up against someone else.

Your love should give him courage to face anything. And your prayer should be, "God, let my love make him brave."

2.         Your Love Should Help Quiet His Worries About Himself

Men, especially married men are amazingly vulnerable to self-doubt and gnawing sense of inadequacy. Because success and achievement play such a vital role in a man's sense of well-being, men are prone to greater fear of failure than women.

Men are troubled by the fear of failure. Your husband, your man might be haunted by these fears more than you can possibly know.

Your aim and prayer should be, "God, use my love to quiet the fears that lurk in his soul."

3.         Your Love Should Tell Him The Truth

Love is closely attached to truth. Love wants his highest and best. Remember, God said, "It is not good for man to be alone".

It is good that we mutually speak the truth in love so we can become better people. We want this to be true of us: "She does him good and not harm." Your husband, as a leader, has few who will tell him the truth. He needs truth driven by your love.

Your wish should be, "God, let the truth I tell him be Your truth, and let it change him for good." 

4.         Your Love Should Not Be Dependent On His Performance

Caution sign right here ladies. Consider this: "If your husband always feels as though he is only in your good graces when he has performed to your standards or met your expectations, he will not see you as his lover, friend or partner, but as his boss". Or perhaps a business partner or associate.

Do you really want to be his boss? Or do you want to relate with him as though you are in a business relationship?  

5.         Your Love Should Give Him A Safe Covering From His Vulnerability

Vulnerability is a risk we take for a greater good. If your husband tells you he is afraid of something "__________," your profound, unconditional love makes that a safe sentence for him. When he breaks through and exposes himself, it is because he trusts your love.

Do not let him regret the risk he just took. Be a part of making the outcome a greater good. Let your love re-assure him that he can overcome whatever he has exposed to you.

Your goal and prayer should be, "God, when he risks his soul, let me calm it with your hope and power."

6.         Your Love Should Draw Him Into Emotional Intimacy

Momentum from these ideas can build an intimacy bridge for him to walk across. When he feels safe, unafraid and unconditionally loved, he can become a different man, one that you dream of.

Add to this when you initiate closeness on his terms -- which is sexual intimacy -- it is an added bonus for both of you. You win, he wins!

Your goal should be to draw him into intimacy, not demand it.

Please note, these tips are not what do occasionally. It is not a Valentine's Day assignment. It's an everyday, 365-day thing.

So, love, it's the best thing ever.