The Six Greatest Needs of Husbands in 2016

As the New Year begins, many couples are hoping to enjoy the best of times in their marriages. But as a wife, your ability to understand the needs of your partner would largely help to make your home enjoyable.

Here are 6 of the greatest needs of a man:

1.         Respect

This is number one! I would even be emphatic and say every time. Men want to know that they are respected by their wives above every other person.

Most if not every man feels this internal pressure to excel. And there is at least one place in the lives of men where they want to be successful – at home. If men can’t feel that respect in their home, they will find it somewhere else.

Ladies, you want your husband to love you unconditionally. Are you willing to respect him unconditionally? You probably aren’t always extremely “lovable.” He’s probably not always respectable. 

Do you want to be loved any less when you aren’t at your “best”? Neither does he in the area of respect.

2.         Admiration

Men want to be desirable to their wives. That’s physically, but in other ways too. Is your man strong enough - masculine enough for you? Does he meet all your expectations in a man? 

If a wife openly talks about the sexuality or athletic features of other men of if she repeatedly talks about more successful men in the world, the husband certainly will not feel admired. 

As an example, if a family struggles financially and the wife complains about it all the time, the man hears that as “I’m not good enough.” 

The greatest assurance a man can receive that he got “what it takes” comes from his wife. Remember, men who don’t sense this will often quit trying.

3.         Peace and Tranquility

What plans do you have to make your home in 2016 a place of peace, a place your man and family can prepare for the world?

It is time to understand that nagging never accomplishes what the wife hopes it will. It may get done what you wanted done, but not with the heart or attitude you hoped to go with the action. 

Ladies, is your home a place of peace and tranquility? Someone said the wife/mother is the thermostat of the home? If that’s true, how comfortable are we living?

4.         Commitment

It is a year to renew commitment. Yes, men want this too! They want to know they are number one with you. 

Men don’t want to see their wife looking at other men or hear them commenting on how wonderful another man may be. They want to know you are faithful only to them. Men have shallow and fragile egos?

Ladies, does your husband know he’s number one to you - that no man could ever take his place? Make him sense that in 2016.

5.         Acceptance / Involvement

Husbands aren’t really looking for a wife who will try to change them. Of course, many men need changing; but the best way is through patience, love, prayer and changing your attitude too.

Men want their wives to appreciate their hobbies and interests. Don’t expect to change your man from being a fan of EPL to a fan of rugby or Legend of the Seeker. Join in his hobbies and enjoy the fun together. Sooner, he would drift to yours too.

6.         Freedom to lead

Most men want to lead in their home, but don’t really know how. The wife should allow her husband to make some mistakes and not criticize him always just because she is more competent at a task than he is.

Applaud what your man does right and see him try harder to please you. 

As a wife, are you allowing your husband to sense your satisfaction in his abilities to lead? If you want him to lead, ask yourself, are you willing to follow if he does?

Adapted

How To Become An Excellent Wife

The success of a marriage largely depends on the willingness of the couple to adapt in spite of incompatibilities that may exist. And most of the time, it is the wife who plays a key role in making a marriage a success. This is why women should strive to become excellent wives.

This is how to begin:

 

1.         Listen to your husband

This calls for submissiveness. Respect his views. Put him first in your life and make his opinion count.

2. Like What he likes

Show genuine interest in his work and hobbies. Be respectful of his friends and occasionally indulge yourself in his hobbies and games.

Share in his fun and passion. Don’t let his friends have the best of him. Hobbies, games and special interests have a way of showing the true nature of a person.

Allow your husband to enjoy his preferences, and do same with him rather let it cause a division in your relationship.

His preferences will surface one way or another. Men will always be men. The easiest way to learn to handle this is to ask in a sincere and mature conversation.   

3.         Be an Encourager     

As a wife, do everything you can to build up your husband's confidence. Try not to ever belittle or criticize him. Don't be the enemy at home! Remember you married him because you wanted to be together. Let this thought be with you always.     

Always consider your husband as a gift from God – a gift that isn't returnable!' 

Express appreciation to your husband freely. Let him know how much you appreciate all he does. Don't hold back the compliments, even if you think he hasn’t done much!

4.         Focus on His Good Points

Remember that you didn’t marry a perfect machine. He is human with flaws like very other person. Whenever you find yourself being critical of your husband, think back on how you fell in love with him in the first place. Rekindle those feelings and attitudes. Begin to love him again, be friends again.

This too would mean you have to be tolerant of his bad habits. Does he keep making a mess in the kitchen? Try to remember when he took all the kids away for an afternoon so you could have some free time.

Another way of focus on his good points is by praising him in front of your children. Remind them that he is the head of the family and that all major decisions must first be approved by him. This will help teach your children respect and honor for their future spouses.

5.         Do Practical Things for Your Husband 

You are a wife! Keep your focus on your main job, which is to be a wife. Your husband should be top priority. Find out what your husband would like for dinner and try to cook those things. 

Spend wisely and maintain a family budget. He needs to be able to trust you with the family finances.

As a wife, you need to keep yourself in good shape. This is difficult for many wives after the birth of a child; but try to keep your body fit. Trim and clean your clean hair. Let your clothes remain neat and let your general appearance be healthy. It honors your husband when you try to look nice him.

When your husband comes home, get up and meet him. You need to honour him at all times, and this shows him that he is very special.

And when your husband first arrives home after work, try to bother him with problems right away. You'll be able to sense when he has "decompressed" a bit from a stressful day. Then when you do share problems, he will be more rested ready to hear.

When you have an occasion together with your husband, strive to be on time. No one likes to be kept waiting. Learn to organize yourself so you can be on time. 

   

6.         Let Your Husband Be Your Best Friend

Share your life with him first. Though we have special girl friends, our husband should be our first and best friend.

Be ready and willing to share emotional, physical and spiritual intimacy with him.

Don’t neglect to play with your husband. Try to find activities you like to do - then do them.

If you are unable to act on any of the tips above because of a break in your relationship with your husband, ask God to love him through you. Sometimes, only God can bridge the gap between you. You might want to go to a counselor.

If you follow these steps and especially if you honour your husband, God can restore your relationship. Marriages need to be led by God and centered on him to succeed.

6 Ways To Embrace Your Husband As Head Of The Home (When You Don’t Really Want To!)

 1.            Lean more on God’s truth rather than on your feelings.

Accept than God’s wisdom is better than yours. And submitting to your husband does not take away your true essence or worth.

2.            Give your husband the honor he deserves. 

If this concept is quite challenging for you today, then go back to the time in your mind when you and your man were dating.  Most likely your guy was leading you and you probably felt like you would follow him anywhere.  Try to recapture those feelings.  This little intentional act I try to maintain in my marriage.

3.            Let go of your bitterness. 

I think it’s extremely common for the seeds of bitterness to sprout up in a wife’s heart, so make sure you pull up the weeds before your beautiful marital garden is overtaken by these unwanted pests.

4.            Start believing in your guy again. 

When you polish up your Knight and Shining Armor by your words of praise and affirmation, you might be surprised by how tall he starts to walk and the tendency he’ll have to lead and be involved.

5.            Don’t listen to the naysayers.

 The world is completely against this Biblical viewpoint and they are dead wrong in their perspective.  Even some Christians will refute God’s Word to justify their sin, so be careful in who you listen to.

Although they knew God, they did not glorify Him as God, nor were thankful, but became futile in their thoughts, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Professing to be wise, they became fools, and changed the glory of the incorruptible God into an image made like corruptible man.  

God’s Word says to ‘test all things.’ (1 Th. 5:21)   God was the one who created the institution of marriage and He knew what He was doing when He set up the guidelines.  Follow and embrace His viewpoint above all others.

6.            Realize that your desire to control and lead is due to your sin nature. 

Every wife deals with the tendency to control her husband especially when he’s not measuring up to her standards, so please know that you’re not alone.  To help you in this, learn to walk in the Spirit rather than in your flesh.

For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit.

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