10 Things ‘Good Partners’ Say to Each Other

 In marriage, a lot of things are said and not said that goes a long way to shape homes.  It's not just what you say, but also how you say it. But knowing a few basic phrases can help teach you the skills to communicate effectively in marriage.

And knowing the right inflection is also critical. That is, what tone do you to address your partner?

Note that, you can say one thing, but if you change the intonation, it becomes completely different. It can have a completely different sub-message. Inflection can get people in trouble all the time.

If you want your relationship to last longer than the average everyday one, you need to practice these tips.

1.         "We're In This Together"

Yes, marriage is full of challenges. If your spouse tells you he lost his job, for example, you have less than five seconds to react in a way that bonds you and proves that your relationship is stronger than any difficulties.

2.         "You're Better At This Than I Am"

It is a huge asset to a relationship if both partners can own up to their weaknesses. If he's better in the kitchen, don't try to manage; step aside and thank him for cooking you something delicious. If she is better at keeping money, hand the budgeting and daily financial management to her. Yes, you are still the boss!

3.         "I'm Angry"

A lot of people often say “I am not angry” just to avoid arguing. But that only prolongs a situation. Being able to express your emotions precisely and honestly gets you where you need to go faster. Say it the way it is in love!

4.         "Please Tell Me What's Going On" 

 This is the best thing you can say to open doors in an argument. It lets your partner know you're present, you're listening, and you want him to talk to you.

5.         Anything You Say Face-to-face

We live in an age where people tell computers and iPhones how they feel. Reading I'm sorry you're sad doesn't have the same effect as hearing those words and seeing the empathy. Couples who are actually there for each other, physically and emotionally, are much closer.

6.         "Give Me A Few Moments To Calm Down, And I'll Be Able To Listen Better"

Whenever any interaction between two people who care for each other begins to get louder, faster, or more painful, it is always better to ask for a cool-down period. In that period of quiet, both partners can focus on what they value in each other, and how they would like to feel when the interaction is over.

7.         "Thank You For Always Reminding Me That I'm Important To You"

In many relationships, positive comments are thought, but it's the negative ones that get expressed. It only takes a moment - and a few negative words - to hurt someone, but it will take much longer to do damage control.

It also only takes a moment to tell a partner something you love about him or her, and there won't be any need for damage control."

8.         "No Matter How Angry I Get, My Heart Still Loves You So Much"

When outbursts occur, they are usually egocentric and don't take into consideration the feelings of the person on the other end.

It is only when things settle that a partner may realize what he or she has done to hurt the other. The willingness to immediately show remorse for that damage can go a long way toward rapid repair."

9.         "What Can I Do To Make You Feel Better?"

When one partner seems down or frustrated about something, he or she may express those internal feelings as irritation with the other partner.

Don't respond to the inflammatory remark; instead, ask what can be done to help in the moment. The situation will soften, and a solution will replace distress.

10.       "I Would Always Prefer You're Honest With Me"

Honesty is not an excuse for meanness. The point of learning to be honest is so you can better understand each other and will be able to predict and prepare for behaviors that could be painfully surprising if they remained hidden.