There is hardly any marriage which does
not have its fair share of little crisis or difficulties. And many such couples
desperate go about seeking a way to fix their marriages.
But you can't turn your marriage around
with one extraordinary event. There's no gift you can give, favor you can do,
or letter you can write. When your marriage is on the rocks, it's common to
want to "microwave" it better. But you can't. There's no quick fix.
There's no one thing you can do or say that will turn things around. It took
you years to get into this mess; it's going to take time for you to get out of
it.
And what's the way out?
Failed marriages eventually succeed
because at least one spouse commits to doing SMALL THINGS in great ways over an
extended period of time.
Do you want REAL change in your marriage?
Then establish the RIGHT HABITS and do them CONSISTENTLY. Talk and touch every
day, for example.
There was once a time when you and your
spouse just talk and talk. Not about who's going to pick up the kids, make the
dinner, or pay the bill...I mean just talk for the sake of talking. If you're
like most couples, you need to start talking again. Tell your spouse about your
dreams. Share your fears. Tell a joke. Talk about the interesting person you
met today or the experience you had jogging in the park.
In the morning before you part for the
day, share something with your spouse. In the middle of day, call your spouse
for a Talk Charge. You don't have to be all sweetsie if you don't want to. But
make sure you don't discuss anything logistical. And don't fight! Just talk.
You and/or your spouse probably feel you
don't get enough attention from each other. As discussed, it could be that you
need to talk more. But you also probably need to touch more.
REACH OUT AND TOUCH YOUR SPOUSE TODAY.
Try a warm kiss or a gentle rub. Stroke
their cheek or play with their feet. It only takes a moment, but the positive
energy can carry you through an entire evening.
When you caress your spouse's hand, play
with their feet, rub their shoulders, or stroke their cheek, there's a moment
there (if you do it RIGHT) when your spouse knows that you are completely
connected with them. Fill your marriage with a few of those moments each day
and your relationship will begin to change.
...continued in part 2
This is really nice.I wish I could have the hardcopy of this. I want to be able to read it over and over again. I will be practicing it right away. God bls u real good.
ReplyDeleteThank u, thank u! These are little things we seem to ignore, yet they mean the most in marriage. In a way, this hits me like a preacher's sermon.
ReplyDeleteU almost made cry reading this. this is what i desire in my home, but my hubby never ever gets to sit to play or talk with anybody. to him, there's no diff btw d office and d home. everubody sits with tight face like we are in a parade. sometimes i feel he treats me like a food vending machine. once his back home, he takes diner and retires to bed.
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