How To Become An Excellent Wife

The success of a marriage largely depends on the willingness of the couple to adapt in spite of incompatibilities that may exist. And most of the time, it is the wife who plays a key role in making a marriage a success. This is why women should strive to become excellent wives.

This is how to begin:

 

1.         Listen to your husband

This calls for submissiveness. Respect his views. Put him first in your life and make his opinion count.

2. Like What he likes

Show genuine interest in his work and hobbies. Be respectful of his friends and occasionally indulge yourself in his hobbies and games.

Share in his fun and passion. Don’t let his friends have the best of him. Hobbies, games and special interests have a way of showing the true nature of a person.

Allow your husband to enjoy his preferences, and do same with him rather let it cause a division in your relationship.

His preferences will surface one way or another. Men will always be men. The easiest way to learn to handle this is to ask in a sincere and mature conversation.   

3.         Be an Encourager     

As a wife, do everything you can to build up your husband's confidence. Try not to ever belittle or criticize him. Don't be the enemy at home! Remember you married him because you wanted to be together. Let this thought be with you always.     

Always consider your husband as a gift from God – a gift that isn't returnable!' 

Express appreciation to your husband freely. Let him know how much you appreciate all he does. Don't hold back the compliments, even if you think he hasn’t done much!

4.         Focus on His Good Points

Remember that you didn’t marry a perfect machine. He is human with flaws like very other person. Whenever you find yourself being critical of your husband, think back on how you fell in love with him in the first place. Rekindle those feelings and attitudes. Begin to love him again, be friends again.

This too would mean you have to be tolerant of his bad habits. Does he keep making a mess in the kitchen? Try to remember when he took all the kids away for an afternoon so you could have some free time.

Another way of focus on his good points is by praising him in front of your children. Remind them that he is the head of the family and that all major decisions must first be approved by him. This will help teach your children respect and honor for their future spouses.

5.         Do Practical Things for Your Husband 

You are a wife! Keep your focus on your main job, which is to be a wife. Your husband should be top priority. Find out what your husband would like for dinner and try to cook those things. 

Spend wisely and maintain a family budget. He needs to be able to trust you with the family finances.

As a wife, you need to keep yourself in good shape. This is difficult for many wives after the birth of a child; but try to keep your body fit. Trim and clean your clean hair. Let your clothes remain neat and let your general appearance be healthy. It honors your husband when you try to look nice him.

When your husband comes home, get up and meet him. You need to honour him at all times, and this shows him that he is very special.

And when your husband first arrives home after work, try to bother him with problems right away. You'll be able to sense when he has "decompressed" a bit from a stressful day. Then when you do share problems, he will be more rested ready to hear.

When you have an occasion together with your husband, strive to be on time. No one likes to be kept waiting. Learn to organize yourself so you can be on time. 

   

6.         Let Your Husband Be Your Best Friend

Share your life with him first. Though we have special girl friends, our husband should be our first and best friend.

Be ready and willing to share emotional, physical and spiritual intimacy with him.

Don’t neglect to play with your husband. Try to find activities you like to do - then do them.

If you are unable to act on any of the tips above because of a break in your relationship with your husband, ask God to love him through you. Sometimes, only God can bridge the gap between you. You might want to go to a counselor.

If you follow these steps and especially if you honour your husband, God can restore your relationship. Marriages need to be led by God and centered on him to succeed.