3 Quick Ways To Resolve Quarrels In Marriage

Conflicts and disagreement is certain to come in marriage over small issues here and there. Couples will not always see things in the same way. But when conflict arises, what most couples do is to ignore it and go about their normal business.

This is a very tempting way to pretend that all is well, but it simply keeps emotions bottled up, waiting to explore at some point, which will do greater damage to the relationship.

Pretending there is no problem when you are angry at your spouse inside of you is simply prolonging the conflict, which itself is a product of fear. We are afraid of discomfort that may arise when we confront our spouse with our true feelings.

To free your mind and quickly resolve issues so they don’t blossom to resenting feelings, here are three tips for you:

1.         Don’t Go To Bed Angry At Your Spouse:

Confront, address or approach the issue before you retire. Agree to disagree temporarily, and reassure your spouse that you love him or her.

2.         Learn Your Partner’s Language:

Your spouse has his or her own language. Men and women speak, think, and process things quite differently. Speaking your partner’s “language,” (now I don’t mean dialect), you may have more chances of coming to a favorable outcome.

This also means you see things from his/her perspective.

3.         Strengthen Your Bond Even In Disagreement:

The secret to here is to hold hands, touch feet or knees when you argue. The contact keeps your energy connected and keeps you aware of your partner’s physical closeness, even during difficult conversations.

One great way to begin these steps is for you and your spouse agree to apply these small changes well in advance, especially in a time of peace. Challenge each to uphold these tips that let you disagree without putting your marriage in danger of sitting on a time-bomb waiting to explode sometime, somewhere.