How Facebook Is Killing Marriages in Nigeria (The Effects of Online Infidelity - Part 3)

When a married woman replies a private message on facebook and says, “I love you too” to a message from another man perhaps younger than herself who had sent, “I love you with the whole of my heart”, then you are sure that there is infidelity. 

As a matter of fact, it is even more dangerous for a marriage when your spouse is more involved emotionally with someone else. This is part of what leads to sexless marriages where spouses become placid and rigid to towards their partners.  

What could be more adulterous than a man or woman lying on the matrimonial bed yet fantasizing and desiring someone else? 

An Emotional Affair is Dangerous

Anyone who finds himself or herself drawn to another person on an emotional level should seriously consider the effects of such an affair. When you become deep in an emotional affair, you are on the same pedestal with someone engaged in a physical affair. And this would eventually lead to divorce just as in physical cheating.

See Part one Here: How Facebook Is Killing Marriages in Nigeria (The Effects of Online Infidelity - Part 1) 

See Part Two Here: How Facebook Is Killing Marriages in Nigeria (The Effects of Online Infidelity - Part 2) 

 

We are not advocating a ban on normal friendship online with people of the opposite sex (like we have the power). It is normal to build very healthy relationships and have friends outside the marriage with men and women. But there should be a limit to our involvement in such friendships. Any friendship that is likely to threaten the emotional bond between spouses should be shunned. 

Usually, people make friends based on certain qualities that draw them to such persons. But a good and healthy friendship should add value, goodness and enjoyment to your life and not threaten your marriage in anyway. And let your spouse determine that value, not just you.

Remember that a little attraction can turn into an obsession or lead to an emotional affair. And this would eventually become harmful to you and your spouse. Indeed, what can be more dangerous to a marriage than the breakdown of the emotional connection marital partners have for each other. 

Don’t let social network kill your home. Don’t tweet your marriage away. Face your spouse and not a Facebook lover. Stand your grounds to keep your marital vows rather than get joy from Instagram. 

There is nothing is happening in Whatsapp that cannot happen in your home. That man or woman from Google+ will not add anything to your life beyond the spouse you married. Don’t let your smartphone be wiser than you!