A Marriage That Will Last - 4 (Don't Let Little Things Work You Up!)

 

Being able to do little things right shouldn’t always be your primary expectation from your spouse. But let them do it to their ability with love.

It's important to share the load of caring for our children, but it doesn't mean that dad's have to be perfect at fixing the hair of their daughters just like mom does.  Or that moms need to teach the intricacies of how to run a blitz on their son's football team.

If our husband doesn't do the dishes or vacuum to our "standard", just be grateful for the help and never "fix it" in front of them or tell him see the dirt here or there.  

Not only does that discourage further help, it sends a message that their help is not valued.

The same goes for husbands, if your wife mows the lawn for you and you prefer diagonal not square directional cuts, hold your tongue!  Remember, it's the thought that counts, not always the results.

If the kids fix you breakfast in bed and the eggs are runny and the kitchen is a mess.  Eat with a smile and enlist their help in the kitchen as you work together to clean up their creative results.  

Again, is sends a message that you value their efforts.

So moms, when you have a girls day out on a Saturday, don't get all worked up if you come home and not only have the kids not combed their hair or brushed their teeth, but they're still in their pajamas!

If they had breakfast and lunch; there are no major injuries and nothing of value was broken in the house...it was a great day.

If our husband pays more attention to the TV than us for Saturday English Premiership football, don't get in a bad mood.  We just need to be sure that we've planned another date or time where we both can pay attention to each other.

As we make efforts to be understanding of each others differences and develop new interests together, we will discover that it's easy to have a marriage that will last a life time.

When all is said and done, it's how we make each other feel that keeps our marriage strong, or weak.  We choose the direction things will go, so I hope we all choose well.