It's important to share the load of
caring for our children, but it doesn't mean that dad's have to be perfect at
fixing the hair of their daughters just like mom does.
Or that moms need to teach the
intricacies of how to run a blitz on their son's football team.
If our husband doesn't do the dishes
or vacuum to our "standard", just be grateful for the help and NEVER "fix
it" in front of them.
Not only does that discourage
further help, it sends a message that their help is not valued.
The same goes for husbands, if your
wife mows the lawn for you and you prefer diagonal not square directional cuts,
hold your tongue! Remember, it's the thought that counts, not always the
results.
If the kids fix you breakfast in bed
and the eggs are runny and the kitchen is a mess. Eat with a smile and enlist
their help in the kitchen as you work together to clean up their creative
results.
Again, is sends a message that you
value their efforts.
So moms, when you have a girls day
out on a Saturday, don't get all worked up if you come home and not only have
the kids not combed their hair or brushed their teeth, but they're still in
their pajamas!
If they had breakfast and lunch;
there are no major injuries and nothing of value was broken in the house...it
was a great day.
If our husband pays more attention
to the TV than us for Monday night football, don't get in a huff. We just
need to be sure that we've planned a weekly date night on another night where
we both can pay attention to each other.
As we make efforts to be
understanding of each others differences and develop new interests together, we
will discover that it's easy to have a marriage that will last a life time.
When all is said and done, it's how
we make each other feel that keeps our marriage strong, or weak. We choose
the direction things will go, so I hope we all choose well.
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