Why do marriages that seem perfect and rock solid to everyone
suddenly fall apart?
As the song goes—it’s a slow fade. A
good marriage doesn’t deteriorate overnight. It diminishes gradually.
There are probably lots of reasons.
There are usually a few common causes.
Here
are 5 ways a once good marriage slips away or falls apart:
1. Couples Allowing Other Interests Come
Between Them:
It could be a relationship - even
other good relationships or a hobby, or work. But when something gets a higher
priority than the marriage, distractions is bound to occur. Distractions will
destroy a good marriage.
2. Unresolved Conflict:
Conflict left unattended sometimes
sits like it never existed. But, oh, it did. And it does. Someone is holding on
to it. Trust me. And the longer it sits, the deeper the wedge it causes.
3. The Couple Stops Dreaming Together:
When a couple is dating they have
lots of dreams together. They discuss their future. They dream about where they
will live and travel. They dream about family and adventure. It’s an energy
that fuels the relationship. When it stops, the fuel it brought stops.
4. Boredom:
This is one of
the leading causes of marriages unraveling. Couples quit dating. They quit
laughing and quit having fun together. They get caught in the routines and busyness
of life. Boredom sets in and the closeness they once shared begins to drift.
The enemy loves this, and suddenly one or both spouses seek excitement
elsewhere. And this is always dangerous!
5. Living Separate Agendas:
It’s okay to have separate
identities. It’s okay to have separate interests. It keeps things interesting.
But it’s not okay to have separate agendas.
The agenda should be two very
different people blending those differences into one. When that’s not
happening, the strength of the marriage will slowly or quickly fade.
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