As the New Year begins,
many couples are hoping to enjoy the best of times in their marriages. But as a
wife, your ability to understand the needs of your partner would largely help
to make your home enjoyable.
Here are 6 of the greatest needs of a man:
1. Respect
This is number
one! I would even be emphatic and say every time. Men want to know that
they are respected by their wives above every other person.
Most if not every man
feels this internal pressure to excel. And there is at least one place in the
lives of men where they want to be successful – at home. If men can’t feel
that respect in their home, they will find it somewhere else.
Ladies, you want your
husband to love you unconditionally. Are you willing to respect him
unconditionally? You probably aren’t always extremely “lovable.” He’s probably
not always respectable.
Do you want to be loved
any less when you aren’t at your “best”? Neither does he in the area of
respect.
2. Admiration
Men
want to be desirable to their wives. That’s physically, but in other ways
too. Is your man strong enough - masculine enough for you? Does he meet all
your expectations in a man?
If
a wife openly talks about the sexuality or athletic features of other men of if
she repeatedly talks about more successful men in the world, the husband certainly
will not feel admired.
As
an example, if a family struggles financially and the wife complains about it
all the time, the man hears that as “I’m not good enough.”
The
greatest assurance a man can receive that he got “what it takes” comes from his
wife. Remember, men who don’t sense this will often quit trying.
3. Peace and Tranquility
What plans do you have
to make your home in 2016 a place of peace, a place your man and family can prepare
for the world?
It is time to understand
that nagging never accomplishes what the wife hopes it will. It may
get done what you wanted done, but not with the heart or attitude you hoped to
go with the action.
Ladies, is your home a
place of peace and tranquility? Someone said the wife/mother is the thermostat
of the home? If that’s true, how comfortable are we living?
4. Commitment
It is a year to renew
commitment. Yes, men want this too! They want to know they are number one
with you.
Men don’t want to see
their wife looking at other men or hear them commenting on how wonderful
another man may be. They want to know you are faithful only to them. Men
have shallow and fragile egos?
Ladies, does your
husband know he’s number one to you - that no man could ever take his place?
Make him sense that in 2016.
5. Acceptance / Involvement
Husbands aren’t really
looking for a wife who will try to change them. Of course, many men need
changing; but the best way is through patience, love, prayer and changing your
attitude too.
Men want their wives to
appreciate their hobbies and interests. Don’t expect to change your man from
being a fan of EPL to a fan of rugby or Legend of the Seeker. Join in his
hobbies and enjoy the fun together. Sooner, he would drift to yours too.
6. Freedom to lead
Most men want to lead in
their home, but don’t really know how. The wife should allow her husband to
make some mistakes and not criticize him always just because she is more
competent at a task than he is.
Applaud what your man does
right and see him try harder to please you.
As a wife, are you
allowing your husband to sense your satisfaction in his abilities to lead? If
you want him to lead, ask yourself, are you willing to follow if he does?
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