7 Things Husbands Need To Know About Their Wives - But May Not Know

To be honest, marriage can be hard. I guess you know that already! 

Sometimes you do the wrong thing before you even knew you did the wrong thing. You try to figure out the one you love the most, but the more you try, the more confused you get. And so many men simply don’t know how important some of these things are to their wives.

Here are 7 things you may not know (but you need to know) about your wife:

1.         You Step On Her Feelings More Than You Know

You just do. And you don’t even mean to—or know that you've done it most of the time. She may think you know, but you don’t. You’re just not as aware of how she’s wired emotionally. And most of the time she overlooks it. She knows it wasn’t intentional. But it hurts. And the more you do it, the more it hurts. So be careful with your words.

This leads to the next one.

2.         Your Words Are Heavier Than You Think They Are

You need to know that. When she asks you how she looks, for example - yes, it is a quandary on how to respond, and there are plenty of jokes around about that dilemma - your response matters. Probably more than any other response of her day. It’s a small question to you but a big question for her. And you communicate things to her continually through how you say what you say and the body language you combine with your words. And they weigh a ton to her. A ton.

3.         She Wants You To Take The Lead

At least occasionally. I know all the women’s rights issues cloud this for you. It can be confusing, but there’s likely something in your wife just waiting for you to make a decision. She values your input, and she wants you to lead in the home as well as she sees that you can lead elsewhere. And, speaking on behalf of men, I know you don’t always want to be the leader. She’s better at making many of the decisions than you are. Still, she’s waiting, hoping that you’ll step up when and where you need to lead.

4.         She Doesn’t Want To Be Like Her Mother

Or to be compared to her mother. And these type jokes aren’t funny. Ever. Trust me. And, in fact, she doesn’t want to be like any other woman either. She wants to be seen for the unique wonder she is—which by the way was God-designed.

5.         She Is Likely With You Even When She’s Not

At least in her mind. Our wives are very relational. So if she asks about your calendar, now you know. She’s not trying to be difficult or suspicious. She’s trying to be with the one she loves.

6.         It’s Okay Just To Hold Her Hand

And, also, to occasionally be romantic. You may have established a long time ago that you’re not the romantic type. She may realize she married funny - or serious or dedicated - more than romantic. But every woman needs a little romance occasionally. It makes her feel special, especially when it comes from you.

7.         The Way Her World Looks Is Often How Her Heart Feels

All her world. The house, for example. You think it doesn’t matter, but to her it reflects her - not you. She’s also conscious of what others think of her appearance. She carries this burden heavier than she wants to sometimes. Don’t diminish this to her. Understand it.

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