How Couples Can Enter The New Year As A Team

I guess you and your spouse wishes to begin the New Year on a sound footing? But wishes alone or late night kisses just won’t do!

Beginning from now, you can and should join hands and pull together to ensure you finish the year as a tag-team. This is how to run the race:

1.         Don’t Be Tied To Last Year

There might have been several issues that troubled you and your spouse - from finances to children upkeep.

But you can both move on into the New Year pulling together afresh. Perhaps last year was rough on your marriage as a result of financial issues, health challenges, or relational struggles. Yes, you might face some of these issues again in the coming year, but be determine to make peace with last year’s events.

What this means is: Decide together to see these challenges not just as annoyances, but as opportunities for growth, both individually and as a couple. How can you achieve this?

·        Sit down together and reflect.

·        Talk about how the struggles you faced wore on you, and also how they made you stronger.

·        Consider times when you let them divide you rather than unite you and discuss how you could do better next time.

·        Resolve that in the coming year, you’ll try to face difficulties with an “us vs. the problem” attitude instead of a “me vs. you” mentality.

2.         Lighten Your Heart More

Don’t let life way you down or get you discouraged to the extent of picking on your spouse. When such feelings come, go watch a movie or find a way to relax together and drive away frustration.

Decide together to approach the coming year with a sense of lightheartedness. While this point to the ability to laugh together at things like colds and coughs, don’t stop there.

Also don’t allow your heart to be weighed down by grudges towards one another.

If you’ve kept a record of the several ways your spouse has perhaps failed, disappointed, or hurt you in the past, determine to let these things go – either personally or, if they are deeper issues, through the help of a trusted counselor or prayer, determine that this year you won’t keep a “record of wrongs.”

Rather, make up your mind:

§    That you will strive to not be so easily offended

§    to do your best to overlook offenses

§    To seek to be a team instead of a lone ranger

 

3.         Get on the Same Page with your spouse

As the year begins, some many people make resolutions and plans to move forward or achieve something. Some plan to pay off their debts and to be more purposeful in life and even concerning romance in their marriage.

What about you? Are you and your spouse on the same page when it comes to your hopes and dreams for the next twelve months? Have you agreed about what you want to achieve?

A sure way to get on the same page is to brainstorm together. Sit down together to make a list. Jot down what you desire the new year to hold for you as an individual and as a couple.

It is best to make your own list first as an individual before you jointly make one. Be honest about it and indicate your personal hopes and desires.

After your own list, come together and discuss the both or more lists. Identify:

§    What items are common?

§    Which ones are unique?

§    And what are some practical ways you can work together to accomplish these things?

As a couple, make up your mind that this year, no matter what challenges come your way, you would face them together as one.  Decide that in your marriage, this is a year of “Team Us; Together We Stand!”