SIMPLE WAYS TO AVOID INFIDELITY

Marriage involves a day by day devotion if it is to survive the challenges of life. Yes, our wedding day vow was of remarkable significance; but our commitment needs to be renewed and kept afresh on a daily basis.

This responsibility is shown in the way we regard each other as a couple and in our commitment to stay devoted to our partner in our dealings with other people.

1.         The greatest protection to drive away the intrusion and temptation of a strange partner and the lure of going into an affair is to maintain a rewarding and enjoyable marriage which satisfies the needs of both partners.

2.         Where does infidelity start from? It is usually from the moment when two persons not married to each other begin to share intimate personal frequently instead of confiding in their own spouses. That “strange” ear that is ever open to you could soon become a shoulder to lean on, and a bosom to lie on. People are bound to make mistake and feelings of intimacy are sometimes uncontrollable.

If you are someone troubled by feelings of loneliness, rejection or anger towards your spouse yet have an increased excitement about seeing “the stranger” you repeatedly confide in, then you are bound to fall.

3.         Generally a lot of affairs arise from poor communication between couples. A lot of people assume their partners want sex just as they do. They expect their spouse to think like them and expect the partner to always know what the other wants. This is wrong and opens one up for temptation.

When one partner feels their needs aren't getting met or they desire more attention, yet the other spouse assumes everything is all right and doesn't pay attention to the spouse on time, the needy spouse may stumble upon someone at work, in the neighborhood or at a social gathering who shows them attention. If this trend is not stopped, such a person will shortly find him/herself looking for support from somebody outside the marriage, and this will unavoidably lead to infidelity since the seed of an affair have been sown.

4.         As career people are more vulnerable to fall for flirtatious advances, it is essential for spouses with career partners to define what limits should be set to avoid unnecessary exposure to temptation. Remember that just a meal could mean more to the other fellow. This is why ordinary situations such business trips, official dinners / business parties, field work with team member at the office and other general work setting could create avenues for temptations.

As a rule, an essential limit would be to avoid going to lunch or dinner alone with a colleague or associate of the opposite sex. Drinking of alcohol or consuming stimulating foods when your spouse is not present is equally dangerous. Avoid it!

A simple precaution would keep you away from compromising situations that may encourage temptations even if not intended. Some co-workers or associates may consider your stand strange. But it is easier to explain to them that you and your partner are devoted to keeping your marriage safe, and have deliberately opted for these limitations than for you to contend with a spouse that is suspicious of you and end up with a broken home.

5.         An unhappy sex life is at home makes a married person more open to temptations and sexual advances from others. This is an unfortunate reality which couples must accept. It is therefore imperative that spouses create quality time for romance and sex, and they must be open to communicate and share their sexual needs to their partners.

6.         It is strongly advised to that you let each other know if you are feeling threatened by any situation that is capable of going in a direction that may not be to handle. Talking with your spouse about ways to protect your marriage and keeping it strong will help you gain strength and confidence to say no to any intruder. It will help you bolt your heart from amorous and sexual advances.

7.         Marriage is like a cloth. It can only be sewn with thread and not cellotape. And trust is that thread which binds marriages together. Trust is an essential element that keeps all other attributes of successful marriages intact.

It keeps out fear and jealousy, and it enhances hope, commitment, and peace. Marriage is easier where there is trust. This places a responsibility on spouses to do everything possible to maintain and shun things that may dismember their marriage and commitment to their partners

8.         When it comes to social networking with the opposite sex not known to you spouse, RUN AWAY! It is better to face reality than let Facebook ruin your marriage. That insignificant comment or chat may seem harmless; but it could potentially develop into an affair. Flee from it.

Without mincing words, any online association with the opposite sex is an extremely dangerous venture. It denies your spouse and marriage useful devotion; concentrated attention, time, energy and perhaps sincerity.

Last Word:

Expectedly, marriage is not a bed of roses neither is it merely two legs in bed. Marriage is a place of forbearance and commitment. Although ones needs may not be total meet by ones spouse, there are indeed several ways to resolve marital issues, and infidelity is certainly not one of them. Running to have an affair because of challenges in marriage or lack of commitment form your spouse equally shows your lack of commitment to your marriage. Stand up to fight for your marriage!