A
huge number of people seeking to divorce their spouse after years of marriage
seem to have deep negative feelings toward their partners. But the question is,
if you hate the fellow so much, why married them in the first place?
A
simple answer to these questions is that many of such spouses made a commitment
and took a vow for ALL the wrong reasons.
Here
are some of these reasons:
1. Age:
“I
am 35 years old; all her friends were either married or engaged and why should
I be the “odd man out.”
Many
people get to a certain age and begin to fear they may never marry. Imagine
feeling old at twenty seven or that life is going to pass you by? Fear that
your chances are becoming slimmer or that time is running out on your
biological clock is no reason to marry!
2. Loneliness:
“Yes,
I got tired of being alone.” You must realize that being with the wrong partner
on can be worse than being alone.
If
you are feeling lonely and want to add someone to your life in an attempt to
give it meaning, you are “putting the cart before the horse.” Find meaning in
life, learn to enjoy your own company and then invite someone in to share the
life you’ve built.
3. Sex:
Don’t
confuse lust with love. Lust is something
that is easy to do. Lust colours our perceptions and allows us to make excuses
for a person’s shortcomings.
In
other words no one should be driven to make life altering decisions based on
the fact that someone causes intense butterflies.
4. A Desire to be Taken Care of:
A
lot of women want a man who would take care of them. Some that are struggling
financially, having accommodation issues or having problems with their family.
Many reason that marrying and building a life with someone else was the
solution to their problems.
What
they don’t realize is, that they are just adding another person to the mix,
someone else who had problems of his own, both financially and personally.
Instead of being rescued from the problems, such people end up with more
problems to deal with.
It
is no wonder many marriages fail. A lot of the reasons why some people marry
does not promote an enduring, satisfying, and life-long marriage.
A marriage built on faulty foundation is bound to fail later in life. And there are too many desperate ladies seeking tie down any available guy.
ReplyDeleteA lot of young women go into marriage for d wrong reasons. So many women are pushed by their families to seek men that can change their financial status.
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