Words Can Kill Your Marraige (Talk So Your Spouse Will Listen)

 

Sometimes in marriage, words hurts more that sticks or cane. Yes, your words do MORE than you can imagine. Sticks at best break bones. But words can break your heart.

A man was chatting with his wife on phone and the woman was like, “bleep, bleep, bleep!”

When the man was done, he felt enraged, and he said,   “for the first time in our marriage I HATED her."

Hate? Wow, that's a strong feeling. Isn't it amazing how a few words can change everything?

"I want a divorce."

"You're just like my first wife."

"I'm done."

"You're just like your mother."

"I hate you."

"You're fat."

"You're a loser."

"You can't do anything right."

What have you said that's been hurtful? What has your spouse said to you that broke your heart or poisoned your relationship?

In frustration or rage, people say rather silly things and use the most obscene language. Even if you or your spouse didn't mean to say it, once it's said, the damage is done!

It's like tearing open a down-pillow in a wind storm. You desperately want to get the feathers back, but they're blowing in every direction. Like feathers of a pillow, hurtful words are irretrievable.

That's why it's so important for spouses to learn to control themselves and watch what they say.

You see, there's actually a MARITAL reason you have 2 ears and only 1 mouth. It's because you're supposed to LISTEN twice as much as you talk. Just imagine how different your marriage would be if you and your spouse did that.

People think they can say anything in the name of honesty. But, when you hurt someone with your words, it's not honest; it's stupid. And it's insensitive.

In marriage, the word “Truth”, is not just a statement that's factually accurate. It's a statement expressed with the utmost concern for another person's feelings.

We need to be mindful of how you use words in order to protect your marriage from destructive dialogue:

·         Learn how to express your feelings in a healthy way.

·         Learn how to say what's on your mind without destroying your marriage.

·         Being honest with your spouse does not mean you kill their spirit.

·         Learn to control destructive impulses and calculate your words.

·         Learn how to listen so your spouse will talk.

·         Don’t let past hurts and mistaken comments determine how you talk with your spouse.

·         Learn how to talk so your spouse will listen.