Friday 24 July 2015

The Greatest Needs of A Husband



 

 It true that the wife or (the woman) is the subject of marriage and it was designed for her and to cater to her.

But it is equally true that it takes two people to make a marriage and the husband has his needs and aspiration. A man don’t just marry for the sake of having a woman beside (or behind him as they say); but he has personal desires that necessary for a marriage to thrive and be enjoyable.  

Here are 7 of the greatest needs of a husband.

1.       Respect:
This is number one and it would always be number one. 

Husband may use different words to describe it, but this is what they really want!
If the man must assume his leadership of the home, respect is essentially. Even the bible affirms this in Ephesians 5:33. It says, 

 “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband”. 

God is not the author of confusion. If anybody would disrespect a man, it shouldn’t be his wife. This is true because the man is wired to demand respect and honour. This is why most men feel the internal pressure to excel. 

And where the man needs to feel to be successful the most is at home. He may be a slave outside, but he need to feel the king in him at home. Sadly, a lot of women do not realize this:

  •         If a man can’t feel that respect at home, he will find it somewhere else.

As a wife, if you want your husband to love you completely, you must be ready to respect him unconditionally.

Wives need to perhaps make themselves extremely “lovable” by showing respect to their man; because you would be loved less when you aren’t at your “best”. 

2.       Admiration:
Wives may be the ones who perhaps run after latest fashion trends; but men want to be desirable to their wives both physically and in other ways too. 

The man wants to feel he is strong enough for you. He wants to sense he meets all your expectations in a man.

As a wife, if you are always applauding and referring to the sexier man in the movies or the more successful man in the world, you certainly make your man feel not admired. 

For instance, if a family is going through financial struggles and the wife complains about it all the time, what the man hears from the wife’s complain is, “I’m not good enough.”
A man greatest assurance of fulfillment comes from the wife. When men don’t sense this feeling, they often quit trying or giving their best.

3.       Peace and Harmony:
A quiet home helps men to prepare for the world; they want a place where they could relax and hide from the stress outside. 

This may seem funny and strange, men want their wives to be their wives, and not their mother! Remember you grow up to your mother!

This is crucial because nagging never accomplishes what the wife hopes it will. Rather, it sends opposite signals to the man. Yes, sometimes it could you what you wanted done, but it is never with the heart or attitude you hoped to go with the action

Wives, let your home be a place of peace and calmness. Someone once said, “The wife/mother is the thermostat of the home”. If that’s true, how comfortable are you and your spouse living?

4.       Commitment:
Men want commitment just as wives do. They want to know they are number one with you. Men don’t want to see their wife looking at other men or hear them commenting on how wonderful another man may be. 

Men don’t want to see their wives chatting more with other men or spending more time in telephone conversations with other men.

Men want to know that their wife is faithful only to them. Men may be macho; but they have petty and fragile egos too.
 

  •         Wives, does your husband know he is number one to you - that no man could ever take his place?

  •         How are you committed to your man? Do you show it?


5.       Acceptance/Participation:
Wives, don’t expect to change your husbands or make them change age-long hobbies. Rather, appreciate their hobbies and interests, especially if they are not harmful habits.
You may not know much about football or don’t like Man-United and Chelsea, but at least know some of the rules and when to scream “it’s a goal!”

If you hubby is going to be sitting at home and not the club or game centre to watch his game, he would need someone to share in the emotions, and your man is more times hoping that someone is you.

  •         Wives, are the biggest fan of your husband?


6.       Leading The Home:
Leading is not always as easy as some wives see it, and a lot of men don’t just know how to take the lead. 

But a good wife should allow her husband to make some mistakes and not criticize him just because he can’t do something as well as she can (and these things are indeed many!). 

If your hubby washes your dishes, don’t go behind and clean them because he didn’t wash them well.

If he takes the effort to fix the bed, don’t go back to straighten it complaining “Haa, just a simple bed spread can’t be spread?”

When a man notices he can’t compete with the wife in an area, he readily quits trying.
A better way is to commend what he does right, and he would try harder to please you. But if he is booed, they would be no motivation to really do more or even to succeed.


  •         Ladies, are you allowing your husband to sense your satisfaction in his abilities to lead?

  •         Wives, are willing to let him lead? Are you willing to follow if he does?


7.       An emotional Release:
This seems to be the hardest! 

Most men do not know how to function in a highly emotional situation. So, when wives are upset, they panic. They move into a “fixing” mode, which is usually counter-productive. 

As a wife, when you are emotionally upset, for whatever reason, and you know it isn’t your his fault, it’s helpful if you can just let him know the two of you are okay, he didn’t necessarily do anything wrong, it’s not his fault, and there is nothing he needs to do to fix it.

  •         Wives, does your husband ever feel responsible for your emotions that are completely out of his control?


This list is just a personal observation. Men, what would you add to the list?

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