You’ve probably seen or know someone who is constantly in and out of relationships. Every new partner that they choose turns out to be another ‘playa’ or ‘scumbag’ or ‘crazy woman’.
Despite their numerous
relationships, one would expect them to do better and choose a better partner -
but that’s never the case. Every new lover turns out to become just like the
previous one. Maybe worse!
People in these situations even
have a laugh and say that they’re a magnet that attracts all the wrong
partners. But is this really the case?
Do they really have a case of no
luck or bad luck? Or is there a root cause for all this confusion and
disappointment.
Common sense will indicate that it
can’t be a coincidence that these people keep choosing the wrong partners.
There is another factor at play here – your sense of self-worth.
A common mistake made by many
people is to choose Mr. Right Now, instead of waiting for Mr. Right. The whole
idea of taking one’s time to carefully select a partner has become outdated.
The general idea is that no one is
perfect so it’s just best to grab what is closest to you. The end result is you
pick someone that’s easily available only to discover that they’re totally not
right for you.
If you have a good sense of
self-worth, you’ll be confident in your ability to find a good partner even if
it takes you time. You’ll be less likely to tolerate abuse or nonsense from a
partner too.
Many women endure partners who
completely neglect them. The relationship is long dead, but they cling on to it
hoping that it will work. Rarely do the relationships work, and the woman
finally quits and feels bitter that she wasted so much time clinging to a husk
of a relationship.
After that failed relationship, she
mopes for a bit and jumps back into the dating scene and once again picks a man
that is not right for her.
The same applies to men too. They
want a woman who is faithful and someone level-headed, but they find a lady at
the bar who is dressed in revealing clothing and acts wild.
She excites them and is merely
‘misunderstood’… and the knights in shining armor decide to try to make a “good
woman” out of her. Rarely does that work out and to their horror, the princess
they picked turns out to be a harlot. So, they end up cursing their bad luck
when the relationship collapses and run for the hills.
You must spend time deciding what
you want in a partner. If you’re a woman who is looking for someone emotionally
and financially stable, don’t pick an out-of-work actor who is 5 years younger
than you just because he has a set of washboard abs.
Once you get involved and try to
“make it work”, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Either he never
becomes the next Tom Cruise and ends up living off you, or he loses interest
and goes off to find a younger woman. There may be a positive ending… but the
odds are rarely in your favor.
This is the hard truth and so many
people don’t wish to believe it. They hope for the candlelit dinners and
happily ever afters… which never come. What happens is they move from one
relationship to the next and the next… and keep losing their faith and hope of
things ever working out.
Know what you want and choose your
partner wisely. Spend time getting to know and love yourself. Once you can do
that you will find a partner who is most suitable for you and you’ll no longer
be unlucky in love.
