Sometimes, some couples just seem to get
to a point where they fall out of love with their partners. But could this
really happen? Could we really just wake up and find ourselves “falling out of
love” with the person we vowed to love forever?
A lot of couples who fall out of love
somehow can’t really tell the particular reasons that cause their feelings for their
spouse to wane. But does falling out of love just happen gradually without us knowing?
One of the commonest things that kill
love in marriage is when couples wrongly make the tasks of everyday living
their priority – instead of nurturing their love for one another.
The Key to Staying in
Love:
So how can you cultivate a loving
relationship with your spouse that will stand the test of time? What are the
steps to building a love that lasts?
Take your focus off of how much you want to be loved by your spouse.
A common trait among some women is the obsession with
longing to feel loved. But this makes a person to become more preoccupied with
self-satisfaction than with building a happy relationship. And this surely undermines
the health of your marriage.
You may be surprised to learn the
secret to loving your spouse also lies in learning to love God sincerely. This
is true because when your love for God is genuine, He gives you His
supernatural ability to love others selflessly, especially your spouse.
Learning to love God greatly teaches us
to love our partners too. For instance, the all-out love which Jesus talks about
is the best way to grow intimacy.
He said you are to love God: with all your
heart, all
your soul, all your mind, all your strength. It holds nothing
back. And it involves every part of your being--your emotions, your inner self,
and your thoughts. This kind of love seeks to grow closer to God and know Him
intimately.
That’s how you fall more and more in
love with someone--by getting to know them.
Growing more deeply in love with your spouse
requires spending time with them. And this calls for more devotion, open
communication, romance, sex, selflessness and deeper commitment to make your
marriage grow.
Adapted from
RhondaStoppe
